Less than smart life decisions. Who are we to judge whether someone has messed up? We all make mistakes and a baby is NOT a mistake, it is always a blessing. But anyway, sometimes we make relationship mistakes and I’m feeling like we’re kind of going back in time, but with a modern twist. I’m scared to write about this because it may get misconstrued, but also, I kind of don’t care, because this is my blog and if you care enough to disagree, you can write your own!

Anyway, this is NOT a blog about the Kar-Jenners. This is a blog on learning a lesson from those who shove their ‘perfect lives’ in our faces.

I’m going to use the recent Khloe and Kylie situation. Again, this is not about them personally, but about the examples they are setting for girls and women. Are they our role models? Kind of, yeah, because they go out of their way to over saturate our media with their bodies and their lives. So do other ‘influencers.’ Calling these people influencers scares the crap out of me, but that’s for another article….

Anyway, these people are influencers. Why do they influence us? Because, as I said, they shove themselves in front of us on TV, on social media, on magazines and on anything else with photos, basically. We don’t even know that we’re influenced by them, but that’s the power of social media and over saturation. Why do you think all the Instagram models are looking the same and are all getting the same procedures? Because we’re exposed to a certain type of beauty and we’re being hypnotised by all the images. Why do you think Facebook ads were used as a political tactic? Because the power of social media is the strongest and the hypnotism is real. Slowly however, we are becoming smarter than letting ourselves get sucked in. Still, there are some women and younger girls who are very impressionable and they still believe everything they see on social media. It is all a high light reel and sometimes we forget.

Let me break it down for you and please don’t hate me for what I’m about to write…

(Also, there’s a reason why I won’t be posting pictures in this blog. That reason is, I’m sick of seeing their pictures! Even if you don’t follow them, you see them!!!!)

So, Khloe got together with a man who left his 5 months pregnant partner for her. Basically straight way, they moved in together, she shifted her whole life to another state to be with him and she fell pregnant barely a year into their new relationship. All we saw on the media and on her show was that she was in a “perfect” relationship and how “God is good” and she finally got her “perfect ending.” Never once did she discuss how they got together, the fact that he was always away and obviously in night clubs and hotels with other women. She fell pregnant with this man and all we could talk about was how ‘cute’ she looked pregnant and how the hard-done by youngest Kartrashian Kardashian is finally preggars. No one deserves what happened to her and it is completely his fault…But, he ran away from another pregnant woman to come to you!…

But, being a cute pregnant lady is all that matters these days, right? Who cares how you got there or what will happen after, because you’ll post a cute baby photo and only talk about how blessed you are.

Kylie Jenner. She also ‘finally’ fell pregnant at 20 years old to a man she’d barely been dating, after breaking up with ‘the love of her life’ just months before. But she too was ‘so cute’ when she was pregnant and she is ‘yummy mummy goals.’

Now, we can talk about modern families all day and how a kid doesn’t need a stable home to grow up with a healthy mind set. Whatever you believe is your prerogative. I’m out here thinking that these ladies are glamorising being pregnant in less-than-smart situations and their feeds are making it all seem like it’s baby bumps, to flat tummies, to cute selfies with baby. Oh yeah, they also have professional hair and make up done everyday and staff. Don’t you? Is that how perfect and simple motherhood and their relationships are really like?

I wish these women all the best and they are so lucky they have all this money and support. I just don’t want other women who aren’t millionaires thinking that getting pregnant is glamorous because the Khloe, Kylie, Cardi B and a bunch of other ‘influencers’ are doing so with men who aren’t sticking around for them. It’s not like an out of the blue thing, where their men have cheated on them. It’s like, this man has four other kids with four other women and he has a past of constantly cheating. Less-than-smart.

I am being harsh and I come accross as being judgy. But sorry, I’m sick of being fed these pathetic lies and I’m scared for the future generation and even mine.

I think it’s time to get out of the mind set of the 50’s where all women wanted to do was have babies and go back to being smart, cautious and forward thinking. Pregnancy is not all glamour. No one can predict how a relationship will end and sometimes they go pear shaped, even though you thought you made a good decision. However, we shouldn’t celebrate these men who go from baby mama to baby mama, just because they’re rich. And these women who go on about their perfect lives and then disappear when the truth comes out. They’re all about over sharing when the pics look good, but when it comes to the truth coming out, they all go into hiding.

Here’s to the men and women who are loyal and to those who aren’t blinded by money and Insta-Highlight Reels.

Lots of love,

Magda